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My father had to have a colonoscopy and he prepped
he is 91
he couldn't get to his appointment and 911 was called
he refused to go my husband was there and told him to go, the EMS told him to go, I got on the phone and screamed bloody hell at him if he doesn't go I will never speak to him again
he didn't go but 3 hours later he called the ambulance on his own
doctors and social workers started calling me, they said he could not make decisions for himself and wanted to make me a conservator and then after his "operation" said oh well yes he can
I told them I didn't want to be a conservator when they were talking about it
I called my sister who I don't talk to and she said don't you DARE be a conservator
after that I told the hospital doctor and case worker to contact her instead of me as well as his cleaning person
that was a week ago I haven't heard from him since
good but sad

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I cant believe the hospital said he couldn't make decisions and then said yes he can make decisions and then sent him home. Whatever at this point but it's ridiculous.

Thanks for the support ❤️
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You’re right, it is sad. Mourn the loss of the father you deserved and didn’t have. Then start doing positive things you enjoy and spending time with people who bring good things to your life. I wish you well
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JoAnn you are 100% right. I cut him off while he was in the hospital. He didn't contact me for 6 days.

He calls today with i love you and miss you BTW can you order a grocery delivery for me?

Manipulator

I am not that stupid anymore finally
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Mary, you want a relationship with Dad that he does not want. He only wants you when he needs something. Then he expects you to be there when HE wants you there. He will never show the love you crave. He doesn't know how, probably does not know what it is.

I was married to a man like this. He would take if you wanted to give but he never gave back. He was self-centered. His needs were more important. He married again after 7 yrs dating the same woman. The marriage lasted 5 years. He retired and became a hermit. He passed from CHF at 69 sitting in his chair, beer in hand watching TV. The coroner thought he was a homeless man. People were surprised he had a daughter and some were people he worked with for years. She was lucky, he never tried to play on her kindness. That may have been one of the selfless things he ever did.

You need to be like your sister, let it go. If the State thinks hevis incompetent, they can take over his care. If he dies...thats all on him. He chooses not to care for himself. You tried, thats all you can do,
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sad because we mattered so little he can't even "lower" himself to call us

why am I surprised fool me 10x or more

it's good because I realize it, better late than never

I appreciate this forum
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